Love Marriage vs. Arranged Marriage


Relationship Guidance may be required in both types of marriages. But which one is better? Let’s find out.

Growing in an Indian household you must have also heard about marriages and their different perceptions about it from each and everyone around.
Some say "Arrange marriages have more chances to stay forever" while others pressurize an individual to adopt arrange marriage just for the sake of society. This is weird and also unacceptable. Let's look at both from a different perception.

Difference
Love Marriage:
When a couple falls in love knowing this  is what they want for if they get married.
Arrange Marriage:
 When a couple gets married and hopes that they have made right choices and will fall in love gradually.

Similarities
Irrespective of how and when you find love, any successful marriage requires a lot of flexibility, compassion, empathy, understanding, selflessness and sacrifices for it to succeed and work forever.

Love can grow over a period of time in a couple or it can gradually fade away as well. This is true in love marriages as well as arranged marriages.

The success of a marriage boil down to a supportive social environment and the willingness of the couple to make efforts and work it through the ups and downs of married life to stay together no matter what the situation is.

Pros and Cons
Each one of it comes with its own set of advantages and disadvantages.



Advantages of arranged marriage
1. Finding suitable matches for their child are handled by parents. There is no anxiety involved in asking someone to go on a date or proposing to someone you love as eventually it is leading for marriage.

2. Parents and relatives are usually objective and will shortlist matches who are suitable based on economic and social factors.

3. Support is the key. Family’s support is assured on the bride and groom’s side for conducting the wedding and subsequent milestones such as the birth of a child, housewarming, or any other event. 

4. When things go bad after marriage and the couple end up disagreeing on important decisions, family members will step in to resolve the matter or try to sort out the issue.

Disadvantages of arranged marriage
1. The emotional highs and lows of going on a date and the thrill of fall in love is completely missing because they are mentally prepared, in arranged marriages.

2. In some cases, couples have very limited or no interaction before marriage which leads to hesitation in talking about things,  and all of a sudden they find themselves living with a stranger.

3. Adjusting to the in-laws and constantly being under pressure to follow traditions to be a perfect daughter in law can make arranged marriages a painful affair for women.

4. Lack of privacy even in matters such as when to have children and how to bring them up can cause stress to the couple as family is involved in all decisions they take.

5. Evils such as violence against women due to dowry demands and female infanticide can be attributed to arranged marriages.

Advantages of love marriage


 1. You can take your time and choose who will be your spouse based on criteria that are important for you.

2. With love marriages, there are no hesitations after marriage as the couple know each other’s likes and dislikes before marriage and are comfortable with each other before taking this big step.

3. Love marriage gives the couple the freedom to choose a living arrangement and lifestyle, without being forced to conform to traditions or parent’s expectations.

4. Love marriages can break down caste, language, religious, and economic barriers that are prevalent in arranged marriages. Love as no bars whatsoever.

5. Love marriages also help break down gender biases society. A decision about the suitability of marriage is not based on whether the girl can perform household work or take care of elder family members.

Disadvantages of love marriage
1. Sometimes infatuation and hormones could result in people making wrong choices which can lead to divorces as well.

2. Social and cultural differences in lifestyle and to co-operate with one another can become a sore point after the initial phase of attraction dies down.

3. Lack of family support can cause serious issues for the couple when things do downhill and no support can be expected in some cases.

4. Some intercaste marriage can be life-threatening for the couple as it can end up at honour killing rather than to tolerate the perceived dishonour to the family.

5. Finally, love marriages can create issues pertaining to inheritance and the loss of identity for the children due to widely diverse backgrounds.



Everything comes with its advantages and disadvantages but what's right for you is in your hand. Decisions should be made by keeping all the minds in point.
Afterall it's your marriage and you would be solely responsible for every thing so be careful and be wise.

 

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